1.
Always kiss His cock after he’s fucked you or
let you suck him off … tell him how wonderful his cock tastes/feels/looks, and
how much you love it. … and say “Thank You Master”
2.
Be kind – it’s not all about rules, or play,
sometimes take the time to watch him, get a sense of His mood, is He stressy? Is
he tired? Try to be in tune with what He needs, and when you can make His life
- better do so. You can do lots of nice
things – simple acts of kindness and goodness, bake a cake, litter the house
with scribbled post it notes hidden in cupboards, in His wallet, in His
favourite girlie mag or on the bathroom mirror. If he’s ill make him soup,
bring him warm drinks before he needs to ask,
bring Him a cushion if he’s been sat to long hunched over a laptop.
3.
Be proud to be His. Stand for what you believe
in. Call Him Master in public/ with vanilla friends – maybe not constantly, but when it
matters. If you’re asked to go somewhere – say “I’ll ask my Master”. Your
friends may think you’re jesting, but by the time they realise you aren’t you’ll
probably find they’re pretty accepting. Mine were. I always deferred on important
decisions and asked them to ask Him. Every time you’re honest about your
relationship it reaffirms the dynamic.
4.
Pay attention to what He likes – forget anything,
but remember what matters to Him, His core values, his worries, His
preferences, His favourite smells, foods, colours, fabrics etc.
5.
Don’t try to be an expert on His interests
though. I’m starting to realise that
actually me and my Master are different. He is logical, and has a scientific,
mathematical, right-brained man’s mind. I on the other hand, am typically left
brained and artistic. I do not understand what He is talking about when he
talks about physics. But it doesn’t matter – I enjoy listening to Him talking
passionately about something. I don’t need to understand all of it, or how it
works. People so oftenly mistake showing
interest with debating or firing inquisitory questions at the other person. It’s
actually really nice that we are different – it balances us perfectly. I don’t
try to outsmart Him on His topics or question Him. I wondered if this might actually be a problem
of where the bimbo-ideal and living it would give rise to a conflict of desires
he might have, but He doesn’t need or expect me to understand.
6.
Learn role-appropriate-skills to make His life
wonderful. Being submissive is a
discipline. It’s kind of like being a geisha. It is about (particularly for
doll-types) aspiring to perfection. So presentation is everything – perfect self
presentation, perfect home, perfect meals.
Learn everything you can about home care – cleaning tips- cooking skill-
sexual skills- beauty tips- massage tips- exercise facts-and do everything with
grace and skill. Practice speaking nicely, moving elegantly and learn how to
hold yourself and at what angles you look best.
Learn to communicate effectively and appealingly – find out if He wants
you to be explicit , or more subtle, to communicate using specific words or
sometimes in your tone, your eye contact and body language, and learn to listen
, active listening makes for better relationships. Take time to process his
questions before responding. It is nice
to be unquestioning and the ideal of submission is surrender as an absolute not
a semi-version but as a relationship its really important to comprehend what is
being communicated to you , so even if you fully plan to agree – pause and
absorb before moving on.
7.
Be useful to Him. In public do whatever He
needs. Be His personal cheerleader, or right hand woman, his rock and confidente. Laugh at jokes you don’t understand. Don’t criticize Him even as part of general hen-crowd-man-baiting.
Be near enough to him that you are by His side, but let him shine – don’t
cling to Him and be in the way, be devoted and patient, serene and poised. It’s ok to be a private performer and to put
on a show when He tells you. But be what He needs when He needs it and
understand that what is expected or desired may change based on environment.
8.
Make His life easier. He may get final say on
things but don’t ask Him about everything, it can be exhaustive. Like home
furnishings. I have pretty much always had the D/s M/s dynamic in all my adult
relationships . Never, have I met a Master, or man for that matter that
particularly cares about curtains. From
what I understand generally the topic is boring and you only make a pest of
yourself running to Him with catalogues of fabric. If you know what colours He
likes narrow it to maybe 3 options you think He will like. The same applies on
other things that he finds dull or laborious – i.e. food shopping, anything He
may need for health or self care.
9.
Tell Him things that you appreciate about what He
does for you i.e. patience, promoting
your confidence, learn to see the things that go beyond “kink” (I hate that
word so much).
10.
Believe in him. Trust him… believe in His
dreams even if you don’t understand them…do everything you can to help him
flourish towards his own happiness… offer to promote his restaurant, offer to
help Him gift shop for children/women/relatives in his life, offer to promote
his craft or art through social media, offer anything that you think is of
service or benefit to Him.
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